Share your thoughts with several people who know you well and ask them to be honest with you. The world is full of people who would never make the cover of a romance novel but who have happy marriages. I don’t know what kind of woman you’re pursuing — are you trying for supermodels? Or women who are younger? There’s no reason you shouldn’t be able to connect with someone, and there’s a reason why that hasn’t happened to you. I don’t know what is is in your case, but I hope someone in your life will help you figure it out — a good therapist would assist you in this, too. Good luck!