My divorce wasn't some great affirming opportunity. It was devastating and painful and it harmed my children. It was the most difficult time of my life, by far. I thought I would die.

I love being married to my second husband. We're about to hit 18 years. No, I would not be happier alone. Yes, we have to make some adjustments to live with another person -- that's how it works. But I think it's worth it.