Men who refuse to have a simple, inexpensive, safe surgery and expect their wives to carry the entire reproductive load are not husband material. Once a couple has decided they don’t want kids/more kids, men need to step up. She did all the hard work of bearing children/using effective contraception. A tubal is not as simple as a vasectomy. Every time I hear a woman in a relationship talk about getting her tubes tied, I think to myself, “yep, she settled for a piece of shit.”