I'm glad your friend said that. I was afraid you'd take offense.

In my case, after my husband (the father of my two kids) left, I was not precisely destitute, but there wasn't enough money to pay the bills. I had to move to a smaller place and so forth. Nobody would have blamed me for looking for someone who could offer a little financial relief, but instead I married a Dutch guy who had just put everything he owned into a shop. He'd sold his house, car, everything. So when he came over here, he had a pretty modest amount of cash to contribute, and he would not be allowed to get a job until his green card came through. We had to marry within I think 6 weeks under the terms of his visa. That was in 2006 and we are more in love than ever. He is so, so supportive of my children and he loves them very much. They love him, too. He didn't bring wealth, per se, but he helped so much. I couldn't afford braces for the kids until he got a job and he was completely OK with that. My friends are all so envious of how good he is to me. However, many of them wouldn't have considered marrying him because he isn't rich. But money is not everything!

I hope you find somebody kind, loving, supportive and respectful, who also adores your child. If you find such a person, don't worry whether he makes $35K or $135K per year. Snap him up.