I’d love to hear how your vasectomy ruined your life. Really. There are BILLIONS of women who have suffered greatly from dangerous pregnancies and births, from strokes their pills caused, from uterine perforation from the IUD, even complications from abortion — it goes on and on. Everything in life has a risk, and by you ejaculating inside a woman, you’re putting her at risk. Even with a condom, as those aren’t especially fool-proof. Both parties take some physical risks when they decide to have sex. Almost all of it lands on women. If you’ve had terrible complications, I am truly sorry for that. But I know many men who had the snip and not one of them had any significant problems. It’s very much the most ethical choice. You don’t cite your source and I don’t believe those numbers. Hard to imagine every single man I know who has had a vasectomy is an outlier!