I was married to my ex for 15 years. I bear him no good will, and I have very good reasons for feeling that way. I am grateful that several years after he blew up my life, I met a good man with whom I have an exemplary marriage. I don't expect my ex will ever tell me he realizes the things he did were wrong. It would be great if he did, but I expect he will go to his grave without realizing how much pain he caused his children and me.