I think a lot of different possibilities can work for different couples, but anyone who stays home is very vulnerable financially. I honestly never imagined it would happen to me. There wasn’t a lot of money until right about the time we divorced — I had just helped him finish his masters degree, and we’d just gotten past the early struggles. I had returned to work and felt I could finally take a breath. Boy, was I wrong. My priority was my children and I wouldn’t change that. But he just retired and will be comfortable for the rest of his life, and I’m still scrambling. I remarried a good man but we will never have anything like that sweet teacher money. I know the pay is low in some places but in central Illinois teachers make bank after the first few years, especially after they get their masters degree. I was there to support his ass his final year of college, to devote myself to the kids and to help pay for his masters. I’m very thrifty so I survived. But it’s certainly unjust.