I have plenty of self-confidence and a good life; not sure why you assume otherwise. Do you think that people without wealth have inferior lives?
For a long time, I tried everything possible to either get a job or to get some good freelance gigs. Nobody wanted me.
However, I now realize that what I really needed to do was stop trying to get paid to help someone else sell something. People in sales almost never recognize good writing.
I write for readers. I don't care about selling things, to be perfectly honest. Most of us have enough stuff now, and I don't really want to try to convince people to buy more useless junk.
I hadn't really realized it until just now, but it's time for me to stop looking for writing jobs and gigs.
Over the last few years, I've learned the decision-makers of today don't know how to hire good writers -- they do not even know what good writing is. It's odd, because when I was hiring writers, I understood how to distinguish the good writers from the mediocre ones.
Anyway, I know how to make a good life without a lot of money. I'm making enough money on Medium to cover my simple needs and it's only getting better.