I have a really close relationship with both my grown kids. So does my husband, even though my kids were teens when we married. We all love and trust each other. My daughter grew up to be a therapist and she talks about generational trauma. She gives me credit for breaking the chain of certain things. You, my dear, have broken the chain of generational trauma — at least some of it. (We are never perfect and will always see things in hindsight). Hugs!