I had my first in 1989. I fought like a tiger for things like rooming in and delayed eye cream, etc. I left a few hours after giving birth because I didn't trust the nurses one bit, with good cause. I had many friends whose babies were given bottles of formula. I wasn't having that. (I wanted my baby's gut health to be as good as possible, and I didn't want formula given unless it was needed.) I had my second in 1992, this time by cesarean. I stayed a day and a half but kept him in my room every second. I'd heard horror stories about little boys being mistakenly circumcised without parental consent, just because it was so common then. I got the hell out of there! When my daughter gave birth nine years ago, literally all the things I fought for were routine. I was judged harshly for what I wanted then, even though it was entirely research-based. The medical norms finally caught up with me. Too late for me, but my daughter had an easier time.