I cannot tell you how shocking I found it when my first husband morphed overnight into a cruel and sadistic bastard. I never would have believed someone could change so quickly. We were married 15 years and had two children. One day he was nice, the next nasty. That was in 2002, and I still can’t understand it. Thankfully, I put kindness as my No. 1 quality when I remarried. My husband now is kind, loving, thoughtful and a joy.