I can have all the sympathy in the world for anyone in pain, and I do, and still call bullshit on the claim that post-vasectomy pain commonly goes on forever. I read several studies this morning to educate myself before saying this and I invite others to do the same. Of course there's pain at first, and for a very small number, it persists for a few months. It really rare cases, it is much worse.

<<How is acknowledging suffering from a male surgery devaluing women’s suffering? With all due respect, that’s zero-sum thinking, and I don’t appreciate the aggression. >>

If hetero people are going to have sex during a woman's reproductive years, somebody has to do something, or the woman is certainly going to have lots and lots of pain. Too many men are entirely comfortable letting the woman bear that. The best thing to do in the majority of couples' cases is for the man to have a vasectomy. Because even though vasectomies, like any other procedure, can sometimes cause pain, the risk is vanishingly small compared to the pain and issues women go through if their partners do not have a vasectomy. There is not any option women have, other than to not have any sex with men until they've gone through menopause, that will eliminate their risks.

Unfortunately, there is not a risk-free alternative, unless you think celibacy for all hetero men is a good alternative.